Persons faced with infertility may be met with the innocent proposal by
another to consider adoption. This is likely made in good faith.
reality is that our humanity makes us individuals and therefore our
ability to be at ease with a topic is more about who we are, how we got
to this point and what is really important to us in life.
significant benefit of egg donation is that the recipient is enabled to
select the physical traits of the donor and therefore be empowered to
match the child's traits (to a point). This full background information
provides a level of comfort that can make a recipient feel that the
best decision was made at the time. If only one donor contribution is
required, e.g. the male is fertile and the recipient mother is
infertile, the selection of an egg donor that closely resembles her is
fulfilling and deeply meaningful.
For many recipients
considering egg donation, only an egg donor is required. This means
that the male can contribute his genetics and so has an actual related
contribution to the child. With adoption, the genes are both likely
from foreign parties. A beauty about only proceeding with the female
donor gene is that with the man already contributing, he is a part. If
no surrogate is involved, the recipient, if female is contributing as
she is physically carrying the baby. I have heard that babies
physically look like their fathers because the more common initial bond
is with the mother, so this phsyical resemblance is to bring Dad closer
to the new bond.
The ability to be part of the child's life from
the very beginning, the miraculous stages of egg and cell, even before
cell division cannot be underestimated. These aspects extend further
into being around this little one, during utero stages.