South Africa is well known for the anonymous egg
donation cycles, but let's use this opportunity to describe this process
in a bit more detail and really understand what that means.
egg donors, it means the ability to register with ease and no pressure
of having their identifying details compromised. It means that they can
commit to the process and know that their full responsibiily ends on
the day of egg retrieval. Although giving a lifelong gift, they are not
making a lifelong committment. It means that this process does not
impact on their own children and family structures. Donors do not need
to feel as young woman that contributing to something so magnificent can
influence their lives in a bizarre way in the future.
sometimes struggle only seeing childhood pictures as they are trying to
identify with the donors to find a little piece of themselves. This
strict criteria is never compromised and all efforts are made to explain
features to recipients. The agent plays a role of comparing the adult
pictures of donor and recipient privately and can then help to advise
that a similar face shape, bone structure and shape may be evident or
use these picture matches to indicate comparisons and where different
traits are evident. Recipients also value this as a consistent
anonymity aspect assures them that complete professionalism is in place
and no deviations may be evident. It is also welcoming to not actually
see the egg donor's face as an adult as it reenforces this nameless and
faceless person as their angel, but knowing that they understand her
traits and features.
There is also no need for a recipient and
egg donor to have a relationship. That is not the nature of egg
donation. The important thing is to contribute to one another's lives.
Otherwise infertile persons have the opportunity become pregnant, carry
this child in their womb and start the most special relationship of
parenthood right at the very beginning of life. I have read so many
accounts and letters from recipients who say they pray for their donors
every day because they have contributed to them in this most fundamental
way. In most cases, new parents elect to keep the egg donation private
from their children conceived in this special way. They may feel that
they do not want to impose any further questions for their children and
keep this special secret about this amazing person who contributed to
selflessly and so besutifully.